QUOTE (PO_L0W @ Tuesday 29th March 2011 - 10:50pm)

I split up with my mrs about 9 months ago and still have the tiniest feelings for her . Anyhow we were together for a year, the first 6 months were great as they always are in a relationship after that i started loosing intrest in spending proper time with her as i wanted to do what a guy loves best and play with his other love in his life, my first car. I've always luved my dubs and spent stupid amounts of money on modding it and keeping it in mint condish, instead of spending time with the mrs after a few months i think she thought i didnt love her anymore which i did but she was never interested in my hobby & she didnt have a hobby so it didnt really help.

It all then finishes after constant arguments + bickering so we finally split, but still once we split up she was back and forth using me while she liked someone else for about 5 months, i felt so shite as the girl i still loved took me for a prick. Finally this new years eve that has gone we ended up seein eachother at the pub which we didnt want, anyhow we tryed getting along and i tryed my hardest to try get back with her and make things right as you do but it all ended in tears.

Ahh how i enjoy relationships...Still plenty more fish in the sea.

thought we was gonna have a happy ending there my and my mrs are just like that except i take her shopping to stop her moaning lol

Yeah mate lol she was proper hard work. Its always the good looking ones as well.

@carsbabesbikes, sounds like u have an awesome lass! Supportive and understanding in your hour of need! Not being funny but you need to start doing things together instead of sitting there! 5years is hard to throw away mate! She obviously think the same! An there's only so much sitting around people can conveyors they get bored and go searching elsewhere! As for mates! If non of them are there for you its rim to move on and find some more bredrin, even more reason to take the mrs out and do something fun! If your heads in a messy place your not going to think it will work! Positivity is key mate! All the best!

was with my gf for 5 years was amazing for the first four i couldent spend anytime without her always wanted to see her, seen her 7 days a week, always had a great time believe it or not never argued an if we did it was only small an could be solved by tickling the shit out of her till she admits I'm right.. but in serriousness couldent of asked for anything better. she even came down to the garrage with me sat an watched me work on my car asked question about what i was doin, could name 80% of cars on the road. just amazing.

then it all changed slowly on the last year i finaly realiesed i had pushed all my friends away as i diddnt see them anymore so we both spoke about it an decided wednesdays an saterdays i seen my friends and she seen hers, fine for a while then I'm not sure what happend we just drifted apart. i diddnt enjoy time with her so much and i cheated on her I'm not proud i hate myself for it. anyway i then couldent tell her for fear of hurting her eventualy i told her (maby 2 weeks) an she wasent angry attal just upset anyway i said it wasent workin an I'm sorry i think we should end it so we did spent 4 months apart never seen her once no txts no calls nothing.

when we was apart i had alot of stuff hapen to me in the family an also personal things i wont say but it ended up with me suffering from depression. we started to meet up again just for a films hear an there or just to hang out. as most of my friends have drifted away from me an we was bestfriends afterall so decided we would try an be just friends. it diddnt work things happend there was just to much history an she decided she wants me back an me bein lonely due to lack of friends,personal problems and still having lots of fealings for her decided we would give it another go, but now I'm not sure my head in such a mess have so many personal problems going on I'm starting to think its not her i miss its having someone there. but I'm so confused when I'm alone I'm deppressed an when I'm with friends I'm ok but i feal i want to be alone. shes very suportive of me an has helped loads in bein there for me. even when we meet up and i dont want to talk or do anything just dont want to be alone she jus sits there with me. she understands me so well. its like i need her there but i shouldent because its not going to work an its only going to hurt both of us in the end. i think she knows its not going to work as it was good for a while then went back to old times i think were trying hard for something thats not there anymore its all jus fucked atm i know we are herting each other. but its so hard to know what to do. i dont expect any positive comments of this just thought it might help in my head to release this thats all.

I can sympathise. The shit hit the fan for me big style about 25 years ago. Its amzing how many friends you don't have all of a sudden. Those that were there for me could be counted on the fingers of one hand. They are the ones whom you can't drive away! Sounds as if your lady friend is just such a friend. One thing I can promise is that no matter how things seem to conspire against you everything sorts itself out given time. Just try and stay in there.

I get fucked about ergo i screw about. its actually shit, i think i attract the wrong girls.